Question: My wife meets wants me to get out of the house. She says that because I cheated with a Delta flight attendant I met on a plane I have to leave and not come back.
She found out that I was cheating because the stewardess came to my house and spoke to my wife and showed her pictures and videos and text messages. The flight attendant told my wife that we met on a long international flight and that she was in love with me and that I was the first man she ever loved since she got divorced 6 years ago from her second husband.
As you expect my wife got angry, very angry. She took a hammer to my Rolex and Patek Philippe watch collection and she cut a leg off each of my Brioni and Kiton suits that cost around $6,000.00 each. Then she tried to throw stuff at me like a baked ham, some potatoes and a rare book that my grandfather gave to me about the Civil War. She just freaked out.
She called my girlfriend all kinds of names. She said she was a slut and a homewrecker and a bimbo.
I'm writing to see if I need to leave the house like she says. She said that the person who cheats needs to leave. She says my daughters don't want to see an adulterer and major sinner in the house. So I need to know if I should leave the house or if I should stay. I don't know what to do.
G.W. in Cumming, Georgia
Answer: It is not a good idea to leave the house; you should stay in the home. If you leave, a judge can find that you have conceded your right to the property. A judge can find that you abandoned the home. That can lead to the judge giving the other party, in this case your wife, the first option to buy-out the house's equity. Or the judge may find that you abandoned the house and that can give your wife a “leg up,” or leverage, in the case.
However, under certain circumstances, the court may find you leaving the home to be proper and reasonable. Some people need to leave and move elsewhere to escape violence or harassment. So if you can prove that you left your home for a valid reason, it might not work against you in the divorce.
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