Question: After my wife and I started having issues, I started to see a therapist, because I really don't want to get divorced. My wife was complaining that I smoke too much pot, that my temper is out of control and that I'm addicted to pornography.
I thought she might be right, at least about the marijuana and the anger. If I go to therapy or counseling, will this make me look bad going through my divorce, if we have to split? I do have mental health issues like bi-polar disorder, but I am working on them constantly. I just want some answers from a Johns Creek divorce lawyer.
F.M. in Johns Creek, GA
Answer: Taking any action to better yourself is essentially taking action to better your marriage. This will not make you look bad to the judge. You are taking responsibility and improving yourself.
Also, having a mental illness does not make you an unfit partner or father. Not handling and treating your mental illness can make it hard to be good partner, however. Many people believe that judges will think there is something “wrong” with them if they are attending counseling, but the truth is, there is nothing “wrong” with getting counseling. Counseling is a very effective way to mend relationships and work out personal issues. In fact, it is a useful tool for many people facing challenges or for those who are dealing with major life events and experiencing martial problems.
There are many options for counseling and therapy. It is a good idea to research the different types of counseling and help available in order to find out which one is best for you. It can certainly be a very positive thing for you to attempt to mend the relationship by working on personal issues.
As far as having mental issues, there are ways that we can present that to the judge and show that you have those issues under control. Remember, receiving help is not a weakness. It is, actually, proof that you are strong enough to admit there are issues and work on solving them.
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