With more people than ever getting divorced, questions often arise as to why. Each couple and each situation is unique, of course, but many times there are similar reasons for marriages to fail. As Alpharetta divorce lawyers we see many couples who are divorcing and we help them through the many issues involved; issues like child custody, child support, visitation, and splitting marital assets using a QDRO.
Here are 5 reasons why divorce occurs:
Finances are usually the top reason for divorce and separation no matter where you live, whether you're in Sandy Springs or Cumming or Marietta or Lawrenceville. People have different conceptions of money: some believe money is to be spent and enjoyed immediately. Some believe that money should be saved and only spent when absolutely necessary.
Money can cause a lot of stress in a relationship. When one partner contributes a significant amount more than the other, or one spends a considerable amount more than the other, there can be a lot of underlying resentment. If the issues are not addressed early on, and worked out to each party's satisfaction, they can fester and escalate into bigger ones. One partner can begin to mistrust the other; financial infidelity can occur.
Overindulgence of food, alcohol, gambling, exercise, gaming or porn is another reason couples divorce. A dependence on food or alcohol or pornography to fill a psychological void can destroy an entire family. Addictions certainly destroy marriages.
Any dependency changes a person's perceptions and as time passes they forget about their partner or their family's feelings and needs. An addicted family member will sometimes alienate themselves from their loved ones and go off to do the one thing that they think brings them comfort (drugs, alcohol, sex, gambling).
Extramarital affairs are one of the quickest known ways to end a marriage. In today's world, affairs don't even have take place on the phone or in person. With so many social media platforms, an affair can take place via Facebook, myriad dating apps, texting, sexting, and all sorts of ways. Infidelity may be a sign of deeper issues in the marriage. For whatever reason you choose to cheat, it will almost guarantee an end to your marriage.
Another marriage destroyer that didn't exist until relatively recently is porn addiction. Addiction to pornography is rampant because of the internet and we've seen it lead to divorce many times.
Constant disagreements in troubled relationships have a tendency to repeat themselves. Whether it is in regard to the children, work, sex, money or household chores, the arguments never seem to get resolved. Relationships are meant to be a source of strength and stability. Unfortunately, if the couple does not seek help and the fighting persists, divorce may become necessary.
Lack of Compatibility does not necessarily have to be a deal-breaker in a relationship. You do have to feel loved and special. Little acts of kindness in a relationship can go a long way. Intimacy is usually strongest in the beginning of a relationship and as the years go by in a successful marriage it turns into a deeper feeling of love and respect. The key is you must feel one or the other and the responsibility to make this a part of marriage is held by both partners.
Sometimes one or both parties are afflicted with mental illness. Mental illness can take many forms and severely impact peoples' lives. It may go undiagnosed and untreated and it can cause the end of a marriage. Depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, and anger issues are all frequently seen by Atlanta divorce attorneys as is narcissistic personality disorder.