Question: I embarrassed to even write to you but I don't know where to get advice about my marriage and possible divorce. I don't know how best to say this, so I'll just do my best and not be so emotional. My problem is that my husband is cheating on me with a blow-up doll that he bought over the Internet. And he told me that he can't wait until he can buy a realistic female robot.
Our marriage hasn't been good for a while. He's been drinking a lot, hanging-out with his college friends and is very uncommunicative. We haven't been intimate in two years. And now I think I'm ready to end the marriage.
He doesn't pay much attention to me anymore, practically none at all. I thought he was having an affair. But one day I found something plastic that he hid in the closet. I thought it was a plastic raft or something for fishing, but it had what looked like a face. When I blew it up, it looked like a woman, a plastic female doll.
When I confronted him about it he was drinking and smoking pot and he told me that he likes the doll more than me. He said the doll doesn't nag him, or talk back to him and it's always ready to serve him in any way he wants. The doll, he screamed, lets him watch what he wants on T.V. and has never asked him a stupid question. I couldn't believe that he would reject me for a weird sex doll.
I threatened him with divorce unless we went to marriage counselling. At counselling he said that he didn't want his doll any longer. But he said he wanted a robot. He said he wanted a pretty lady robot. He explained that robots are becoming so life-like that he really didn't want to have a human wife. He said the robot would always let him watch sports, it would never criticize him or make him watch “chick flicks.” I'm so upset.
I think he's committing adultery. He's cheating on me with that doll and wants to do the same thing with a robot. Is using a doll or a robot cheating? I think it is!
L.H. in Alpharetta
Answer: While it must be very hurtful to know that your husband would prefer the company of a plastic doll or robot to you, it is not considered adultery under the laws of the state of Georgia. Adultery must be between two people, two human beings.
This is a type of question that we are getting more and more frequently. As the Internet has made shopping more private and the acquisition of goods more accessible, more people are making purchases of goods that heretofore had only been available through specialized retailers usually located in only a few very large cities. Now, it has become easy and convenient to just go online and order products like sex dolls.
Of course, the new high-tech frontier is robotics. And entrepreneurs, in search of vast profits, are now vying to create the most life-like and technologically sophisticated sex robots. The international media has been filled with stories, both pro and con, regarding the great advancements in robot technology.
So although his engaging a doll or robot may be hurtful (and some would characterize it as infidelity and cheating), your husband is not committing adultery under Georgia law. Having said that, however, we certainly understand your feelings of dismay, loss and anger.
Take advantage of our long and valuable experience as divorce lawyers, including serving as a Magistrate Judge, an Assistant Attorney General and as a Senior Assistant County Attorney. Attorneys Valerie Sherman and Bill Sherman are ready to help you through this tough time!
We handle cases throughout the Atlanta metro area and North Georgia.