Question: I know I'm heading for a divorce. My wife, who's a North Fulton soccer mom-type, drinks too much and she isn't taking care of herself and I'm worried that she might be falling into mental illness. I'm not even sure I'm the father of my youngest daughter, who's just two years old, and that's my problem. I need a Georgia paternity lawyer fast.
My wife stopped working after we were married, even though she's a dentist and could make a nice living. She said she always wanted to be a housewife, just like her mother and grandmother. She said she liked to keep the house nice and it gave her time to work on her poetry and photography. I thought she'd get bored and go back to work eventually. But then we had two children and she said she wanted to be a stay-at-home mom, which was fine with me because I never really saw my mother because she was in and out of jail on various drug and weapons charges; my mother liked guns, drugs, and rock and roll. So I thought my wife staying home would be good for the whole family.
But I noticed that she'd really just be on Facebook all the time, or hanging out with some of her North Fulton soccer mom friends. They'd just drink a lot, take anti-depressants, and occasionally watch porn together. I knew it was unhealthy but I never really knew what to do. I told her to go back to her dental practice or volunteer at a charity or maybe go back to school for another degree. But all she did was drink a lot of wine, develop a pill problem and become a porn addict. I'd come home from work and sometimes she'd be passed out and the kids would be running around, unsupervised. One time the two kids took her clothes off and wrote with magic markers all over her body. They said: ”Mommy looks drunk.”
Anyway, my problem is that I think my youngest daughter is not mine. She doesn't look like me and I think she looks Hispanic. My father thinks the same thing. And recently, when my wife got drunk and took her pills, she said something like “I wish Juan was here to see his daughter.” I was shocked. I asked her what she meant and she said she never loved me and she'd like to marry “Juan from Kroger.” She said something about Juan being able to “handle fruit” but then, suddenly, she vomited and passed out.
The next morning I asked her who is Juan from Kroger and she said she didn't know what I was talking about. I confronted her and asked her if she loved Juan and what she meant by saying she wished Juan could see his daughter? She denied everything. Said I must be crazy.
I think my wife is mentally ill because she'll not sleep for days and just stay on the Internet and buy stuff online, stuff she doesn't even want or won't even wear. She went through a phase of buying laptop computers, toilet paper, and Justin Bieber posters. She bought several dozen computers, hundreds of rolls of toilet paper, and probably 200 Justin Bieber posters.
But now I need to know if my daughter is really my daughter or if she's the child of this man named Juan. How can I find out for sure if she's my kid or not? Even if she is mine, I still want a divorce as soon as possible.
B.K. in Atlanta, Georgia
Answer: The way to determine paternity is with a blood test or a buccal swab. A buccal swab is collected using a cotton swab that is rubbed on the inside of the cheek. A DNA test is highly accurate and can determine the likelihood of paternity to 99.99 percent. The DNA test will confirm or disprove if you are the child's father. In fact, it can exclude the father with 100% accuracy.
In fact, the test is usually only wrong if the samples are logged into the laboratory incorrectly.
DNA is used because it's a unique genetic "fingerprint." When conceived, a baby takes half of each parent's DNA, so the baby is a shared mix of only its mother's and father's DNA.